It's been on our heart for a long time to be able to encourage people through marriage. Until now I have let life's difficulties and challenges halt me from doing so. I fear that as a newly married couple, people won't take our advice seriously, or that maybe by reading what we have to say people will see our marriage as one not to model. Why? Because sometimes we fight. Sometimes we don't see eye to eye. (This is when Daniel would look at me cross-eyed.) A lot of the times I do not do things the way I should. After Daniel wakes up to go to the early service at church like I requested, brings me to REI (my favorite store) to buy me a few things, and then even though he has a lot to do, he goes to hang out with me at a friend's house... I get mad over stupid things like Daniel poking me when he is trying to be cute.
My hope is that somehow, by our honest reality, you will find hope in a marriage that lasts. This hope has come out of our desire as wedding photographers, to help our couples stay together. This isn't because our brides and grooms are getting divorced, this is because the statistics and the marriages around us have shown that the divorce rate is too high.
Those who desire to get married,
Marriage is a covenant. Maybe you sign a paper to solidify your vows for the government and sure, you can sign other papers to say that you no longer want to be bound by that paper. But is that really what marriage is about? Papers?
No. Marriage is a covenant before our King. Before the creator of all that we know. God instituted marriage to be until death do us part. He didn't say that when we don't get along anymore we can turn our backs. And he didn't say that when our spouse turns to something that we don't agree with, that we can throw in the towel and shout "it's over". Marriage is a forever plan. It is a choice to stay together for the love you once knew. And love is a choice to pursue your partner. A choice to intentionally do what the other person likes and to do life together. Marriage is choosing the forever plan!
We will be doing our best to give you advice, tips, ideas, and challenges.
Tip : Learn your spouse's love language! If you don't know what I am talking about or what they are, click here! They are taken from The 5 Love Languages book and the quiz to learn your spouse's love language is here.
Idea: Think of something that speaks love to your spouse or soon to be. Maybe this is something that they often hint at, but you never do. Maybe this is something that they rarely ask for, but you know it is important. And then apply speaking love to them by doing it at least once this week.
Challange: Don't expect that they do something back for you. Just do it because you love them.
If you have marriage advice that you would like to pass along, send us an email. Maybe we will talk about it in an upcoming post!